Wedding Party Checklist

Maid Of Honor Check List:

• Manage the bridesmaids and mediate any conflicts that may arise

• Keep a level head throughout the bride’s wedding planning

• Oversee and keep track of pre-wedding expenses for the bridesmaids

• Pay for her own wedding attire and travel expenses

• Help the bride shop for her wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses

• Coordinate any necessary bridesmaid fittings and ensure bridesmaids are getting their dresses and accessories on time

• Offer to help address wedding invitations and assist with miscellaneous wedding projects

• Organize and host or co-host the bridal shower

• Organize and plan the bachelorette party

•  Attend all pre-wedding events, including the wedding rehearsal and     rehearsal dinner

• Offer to help the bride pack for the honeymoon

• Make sure the bridesmaids all arrive at the wedding on time with everything they need

• Assist with the bride’s appearance during the ceremony and rehearsal  – keep an eye out for smudged makeup or stray hair     and help her with her veil, dress and arranging her train during the ceremony

• Hold the bride’s bouquet during the ceremony

• Hold the groom’s ring during the ceremony if asked Sign the marriage certificate

• Give a toast to the bride and groom at the reception

• Act as a co-host at the reception and help make sure everything goes according to plan

• Help transport wedding gifts from the reception

• Attend the send-off party or post-wedding brunch

Bridesmaid checklist:

• Offer to help with wedding planning and pre-wedding events

• Help choose bridesmaid dresses and accessories if asked

• Help organize and plan the bachelorette party

• Pay for her own wedding attire and travel expenses

• Purchase dress and accessories in a timely manner as requested by the bride

• Attend the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner

• Offer the bride and her family help and emotional support on the day of the wedding

• Act as a co-host at the reception and help make sure everything goes according to plan

• Attend the send-off party or post-wedding brunch

Best Man Checklist:

• Help manage groomsmen and mediate any conflicts that may arise

• Oversee and keep track of pre-wedding expenses for the groomsmen

• Pay for his own wedding attire and travel expenses

• Coordinate suit or tuxedo fittings for all groomsmen and ushers

• Attend any co-ed wedding showers the couple is having

• Organize and plan the bachelor party

• Offer support to the groom and groomsmen during wedding planning and on the day of the wedding

• Attend the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner

• Help orchestrate toasts at the rehearsal dinner

• Make sure all the groomsmen and ushers arrive at the wedding on time with everything they need

• Hold the bride’s wedding ring during the ceremony if asked

• Sign the marriage certificate

• Give a toast to the bride and groom at the reception

• Act as a co-host at the reception and help make sure everything goes according to plan

• Coordinate with parents of the bride or groom to ensure all service providers have received necessary payment and tips

• Attend the send-off party or post-wedding brunch

Groomsmen Checklist:

• Help the best man organize and plan the bachelor party

• Attend any co-ed wedding showers the couple is having

• Pay for his own wedding attire and travel expenses

• Attend the wedding rehearsal and rehearsal dinner

• O­ffer support to the groom during wedding planning and on the day of the wedding

• Offer to help with any last-minute errands or tasks on the day of the wedding

• Act as a co-host at the reception and help make sure everything goes according to plan

• Attend the send-o­ party or post-wedding brunch

Mother of the Bride’s Checklist:

• Hosts an engagement party (the bride’s family traditionally gets the first opportunity). Helps couple to decide on sites or assists in making other big planning decisions.

• Usually contributes to the wedding budget.

• Assists the bride in putting together the family’s guest list.

• Offers suggestions for special family or ethnic ceremony traditions.

• May help bride to shop for wedding gown and accessories.

• Chooses own wedding day outfit (may consult with mother of the groom about formality).

• Along with the maid of honor and bridesmaids, may plan and host bridal shower.

• On wedding day help bride to get ready.

• May accompany daughter and husband to ceremony.

• Walk in recessional with husband following wedding party.

• Greet guests in receiving line.

• May be announced along with husband.

• Sits in an honored place at parent’s table.

• May assist with coordinating vendors.

• May host a post-wedding brunch.

Father of the Bride’s Checklist:

• Hosts an engagement party (the bride’s family traditionally gets the first opportunity). Helps couple to decide on sites or assists in making other big planning decisions. Usually contributes to the wedding budget.

• May select hotel for out of town guests and reserve a block of reduced rate rooms.

• Rents own formalwear (work with couple to coordinate with wedding party).

• Helps pick up out-of-town guests from airport. May also arrange transportation to and from the wedding.

• Typically travels to ceremony with the bride.

• Walks daughter down the aisle.

• Gives the bride away during the ceremony.

• Escorts the mother of the bride out following the wedding party.

• Greets guests in the receiving line.

• May be announced with wife at reception.

• May make a welcoming speech.

• Sits in an honored place at the parent’s table.

• Toasts the newlyweds after the best man makes his speech and the groom responds. Dances with the bride.

• May take care of vendor balances at the end of the reception.

Mother of the Groom’s Checklist:

• Contacts the mother of the bride if the families are not acquainted (or plans a celebration if you have met).

• Attends (first) engagement party if the bride’s family hosts one.

• Along with husband, may host an additional engagement party for the groom’s side of the family.

• Usually contributes to wedding budget.

• May help couple decide on sites and/or make other big planning decisions.

• Helps group to put together family’s guest list.

• Offers suggestions for special family or ethnic ceremony traditions

• May help bride shop for her wedding gown.

• Chooses own wedding day outfit (may consult with mother of the bride about formality).

• Along with husband, plans and hosts the rehearsal dinner.

• Escorted out following the wedding party and the bride’s parents

• Greets guests in the receiving line.

• May be announced with husband at the reception.

• Sits in an honored place at the parent’s table.

• Does mother-son dance with groom.

• Attends post wedding brunch (if held).

Father of the Groom’s Checklist:

• Attends (first) engagement party, if the bride’s family hosts one.

• Along with wife, may host an additional engagement party for groom’s side of the family.

• Along with wife, may contribute to the wedding budget.

• May help couple decide on sites and/or make other big planning decisions.

• Rents own formalwear (after talking with couple to coordinate with wedding party); attends fittings as needed.

• Along with wife, plans rehearsal dinner.

• May travel to ceremony with the groom and the best man.

• May escort wife to her sear right before the mother of the bride is seated.

• Escorts mother of the groom out after wedding party and bride’s parents.

• Greets guests in the receiving line.

• May be announced with wife.

• May make a welcoming speech.

• Sits at an honored place at the parent’s table.

• May toast the newlyweds.

• May settle final bills with wedding vendors

• Attends or hosts post-wedding brunch

Flower Girl’s Checklist:

• Dress and accessories should be paid for by her family.

• Attends the rehearsal although she usually does not attend the rehearsal dinner.

• In the processional, walks alone directly before the bride and her father.

• Often scatters petals from a basket she holds, although this is sometimes too overwhelming a responsibility for a young girl to manage in front of a large group of people. It is usually easier for her to carry either a small basket of flowers or a tiny nosegay of flowers similar to those carried to those carried by the bridesmaids in the recessional, walks with the ring bearer, directly behind the couple.

• The bride may hire a babysitter or ask one of the bridesmaids to look after the flower girl, to be in charge of checking her appearance and making sure she is present for formal pictures, helping her manage her food at the reception, and escorting her to the ladies room.

Ring Bearer’s Checklist:

• His attire should be paid for by his family.

• Attends the rehearsal although he usually does not attend the rehearsal dinner.

• He immediately precedes the flower girl in the processional.

• Carries either the actual rings or a facsimile of the rings (often a practical idea), on a white velvet or satin cushion. If the rings are genuine, they should be fastened to the cushion with a very thin thread or placed over a firmly fixed hatpin. The best man takes the rings from the cushion at the right moment.

• Walks with the flower girl in the recessional, directly behind the bride and groom

• The bride may hire a babysitter or ask one of the ushers to look after the ring bearer, to be in charge of checking his appearance, making sure he is present for formal pictures, helping him manage